a little about my goal
The goal of this page is to help other people make better choices than the ones I made. Society can often seem broken, unfortunately abuse of trust and power can happen in many places and for many reasons but by sharing my story, I would like people to have some understanding how an offender can justify to themselves their bad decisions and also to be able to talk more openly about these crimes rather than pretending they didn't happen. Due to the personal nature of sex offences, people feel strongly about the crimes, as a lot of people are either victims or know a victim.
I do not want to excuse my actions or that of anybody else, there is a court to provide justice for the victims. However, if we could prevent the crime from happening in the first place, with a better understanding of the reasons why people offend, society may seem less broken.
The situation
The shocking reality
For every victim there has to be an abuser, the sad situation is that a lot of people who are abused become the abuser and are often confused by their actions because they suffer from Dissociative Amnesia, a way in which the mind copes with traumatic memories (blanks out).